So I remember one of the very first experiences I had at going out with my new baby and getting judged. Now don’t get me wrong it isn’t something that happens all the time but it is there and I feel like it’s there no matter what age you are because there is always going to be one person that thinks what you are doing is wrong.

My experience was with an elderly lady who believed because I was young and with a baby that “I was wrong and should have known better” her words unfortunately not mine, I was 17 at the time walking through the shops after doing groceries and this lady with a friend I’m guessing walked past me and said “the generation these days don’t no how to close there legs” and it shocked me, completely threw me that someone who doesn’t know me could judge not just me but a generation so easily. I’m not going to lie I turned around and spoke to her, not rude but just trying to understand how she could believe something like that, and from there I was call a few names that I will not repeat but it definitely changed my perspective of how we are perceived.

These days I still feel like mum’s are judged on everything they do from whether it’s them wanting to go out for a moment to themselves or for them not loosing the baby weight fast enough. My 18th was the next big judgement I got because of course like every other 18 year old you want to go out and celebrate, well 80% of my night was spent dealing with people that every time they found out I had a baby I was told I should of been home looking after her and don’t get me wrong, I could see there point of view and I missed her like crazy every second I was away but I wanted just a moment to myself to have a little fun and you know what that’s ok. I thinks mum’s already have enough pressure on themselves so let them love and care for their baby the way they want to and do what they want in their life because they might already be struggling and you judging isn’t helping.

I think the other thing that everyone likes to think they can do is give you advise and some of it is great, I have listen to a fair share of it but at the end of the day you are going to know what is best always remember that.

So if you see a mum or dad out there that look like they might be having a bad day or struggling a bit, tell them that they are doing amazing because that just might be the one thing that helps them get through that day 🙂

Talk again soon CC ❤